My last post of 2017 mainly focused on what had happened in the year and ended with a couple of questions about what I’ll be doing in terms of self-improvement/self-love/self-care. I really enjoyed answering those questions and it felt good to write everything down. I feel like with writing those answers and publishing them on my blog for everyone to see, I must now be held accountable. 

This post will focus on my actual goals for 2018. I FaceTimed my cousin last night, and she really inspired me with her own goals for the year. She said that she feels like this year is going to be her year and I feel the same way. I can feel it in my bones (and not just because it’s cold)!

I recently tweeted a few things I’m looking to do this year, and I’m looking forward to taking steps to achieve these things:

✨ Speak things into existence
✨ Remove negativity in my life
✨ Get a jar and when something good happens, write it down and put it in
✨ Make a vision board
✨ Buy a new planner

I am a bit late in getting my planner for this year, but I finally ordered one after researching for about 2 hours for one that I think will help me with my journey. I found Trigg Life Mapper, which seems promising. 

“Each week you write down your goals – categorised into “self”, “work”, “passion”, “relationships”  – and the action you will take. You get a day-to-a-page format with space at the top to prioritise that day’s tasks, with bullet points for appointments underneath. On a Sunday, it asks you to reflect back on the week and note what you’re grateful for. There’s a six-month review in June then at the end of the year, you are encouraged to take stock of what you have achieved.” – Independent, 10 best 2018 planners

I feel like it echoes the Happiness Planner I have, but at half the price. Whilst I really enjoyed the Happiness Planner, I think it is time for me to try something new. I will most likely post my first impressions on Instagram, so keep an eye out on that. 

My goals for this year are probably similar to many others because they mostly include health, fitness, personal growth. The strides I took in 2017 definitely laid the foundations for helping me with my goals and I am super excited!

Finish my first draft

This is different to finishing my book because it is a long process to get to the final product. I want to at least have a first draft completed by the end of February, which I think is definitely possible. There’s also the fact that I have 50k+ words already written of my story, so that’s a nice little headstart. I’ve already made progress with writing up character backstories and timelines, and I plan to keep track of all this via a thread I started last year:

This is the first time in a long time I’ve been excited about one of my plots. I have (or had) this habit of starting stories and never getting around to finishing them. I know exactly how I want this story to end, so let’s see what happens!

Dress more like a grown up

I was having this conversation with Mutay last night, and this goal may sound a bit funny but honestly, it is something that needs to be done. Whenever I go to work I genuinely feel/look like one of the college kids that I see roaming around outside Sainsbury’s. I don’t much care for clothes, I’ll be honest, but I feel like I need to start dressing my age. Ready for my glow up, 2k18.

Somebody just needs to buy me a whole wardrobe, though.

Maintain relationships 

I have pretty strong relationships with the people in my life and I just want to keep that going, really. This means making time for people. I know this can be difficult with school or work or other social commitments, but if those people are important to you then you will make the time. 

I am hoping to get out a bit more this year and whether this will garner new, lasting connections, we’ll have to see, but it would be nice. There are so many interesting people in this world and I love hearing other people’s perspectives, as well.

Implement healthy habits

This one is a bit of a no-brainer. I started off really well with exercising and healthy eating last year and then I fell off the bandwagon several times, and then it got to October, I want to say, and bam. I was just straight sitting on the road going nowhere.

I stopped making my own healthy lunches and would either grab a meal deal from Sainsbury’s or bring in last night’s leftovers which usually consisted of a lot of rice. I haven’t been to the gym in months. I’ve only recently started drinking water diligently, again.

My skin has suffered because of my laziness, and it’s gotten to a point where I know that I need to do better. Not just because I want a hot bod but because if I don’t actually look after my body then my eczema flares up and it just makes life really hard. So, I’m writing it down now – I WILL MAKE BETTER HEALTH DECISIONS IN 2018.

Work on my portfolio

I have had chynnawebley.com for how many years now, and aside from posting a bit on there, I’ve largely left it abandoned. I want to revamp it, add new content, all sorts – I know I want this domain to be a portfolio, but I don’t know what direction I want it to take. Keep an eye out for updates!

Get into a strong blogging habit

Again, last year I started off really strong, had a bit of a wobble mid-year and then sort of got back on it towards the end. I definitely want to put more time and effort on my blog this year, as I do feel like it has been neglected a bit. Also, actually catch up on the blogosphere because I’m really behind on posts/comments. 

I have many goals I want to achieve this year including more travelling, but I feel like that one’s a given. Like I mentioned earlier, I feel like this is the year to achieve everything! I know I can achieve these goals if I put my mind to it, and as above, I’m going to be doing more speaking things into existence. 🗣️

We’re 7 days into the new year and I’ve already found my theme tune of 2018.

I took the plunge and bought myself The Happiness Planner. It’s “a planner/journal that embraces the power of positive thinking, mindfulness, gratitude, and self-development” and it’s something I am so excited to get started with. I also have my daily planner that Georgie got me for Christmas, so I will be making use of both of them this year.

Whilst on the website, I stumbled across free printables for 2016 reflection and 2017 planning and thought it would be a good idea to take some of the questions and turn them into a blog post! I only decided to do the 3-page printable, but I will definitely be doing the other ones for own personal files.

Describe 2016 in 3 words

Sebastian was right.

What were your happiest moments?

Definitely travelling to different places and experiencing new things, ex: eating snails and chicken/pork intestines. Intense stuff.

What new skills did you learn?

Patience. A lot of it. Where I work, I deal with angry customers everyday, so I’ve had to learn to be hella patient with them because “the customer is always right”. It’s a skill that I’ve learnt to apply in my personal life – certain people be testing my patience, but I’ve learnt to deal with it. It’s mostly a non-issue anyway and just me being a jerk. I really don’t like people.

What was your most common state?

Whew, hard one. Most of the year I’ve been happy… or well, just there. I’m not sure how to describe it really – I wasn’t overly happy, but I wasn’t sad. However, before I went away in November, I was stuck in a place that wasn’t good. It was depressing. I would look all around me and see everyone being happy and succeeding in life, and then I’d see myself and I wasn’t happy with were I was.

It made me mad/sad/have feelings I hadn’t ever experienced before within myself. Thankfully, I had my best friend to help me through these feelings and it was difficult for me to comprehend, I can’t lie. There are some days where I still get down, but it’s a matter of concentrating on myself and not on others. Find happiness within myself instead of trying to search for it in others.

What little things did you most enjoy doing?

Mainly hanging with friends. Connecting is a huge thing for me. I’m not sure if I’m right in saying this, but I feel like I’m an introvert: someone who is social in the right circumstances (ex: with people I’m comfortable with, when I’m not too tired, etc), and needs time alone to recharge and is thoughtful/process internally. Therefore, little things like hanging with friends made me extremely happy.

What qualities/habits did you strengthen?

I honestly don’t know! That is a hard one. I’ve definitely gotten into the habit of actually organising my life. My planner is my baby, and I actually only started using it back in July when I picked one up in Target whilst I was in Seattle. It’s honestly saved my life, though. I tried making reminders on my phone, and using different apps, but I’ve found writing things down suits me much better. Also, I get to use planner stickers, which are hella cute.

What new things did you discover about yourself?

I rely on finding a relationship to be happy. I never actually realised this until recently. I’ve had many failed relationships this year and I think it’s partly because I put too much of myself in something that I knew deep down was never going to go anywhere. It’s sad, but it’s something that I’ve come to terms with and that I’m working on – like I mentioned before: I need to find happiness within myself instead of trying to search for it in others.

Wow. It was kind of hard writing that down because you never really want to admit how much of a sad, desperate person you are. It’s something that needed to be written, though. Reflect and move on!

What did you do that go you out of your comfort zone?

Travel more by myself! This is the second year in which I’ve had the chance to travel more alone. Whilst I was in Seattle, I was essentially by myself for most of the trip because my family were working so I got to explore a whole new city by myself and it was amazing.

I also headed over to LA, and most of it was spent with Nancy but there was one night I got to spend by myself. It was a bit nerve wracking, as well, because I was in a city where I literally knew only ONE person and so walking the streets of LA was an eye opener. Not everyone is out to get you, and people can actually be friendly. Still… it always pays to be careful, especially if you are by yourself.

Did any negative events happen? How did you overcome them?

I think we can all agree that 2016 was a fucking shit show. Terror attacks, Brexit, police brutality, losses of David Bowie, Prince, George Michael, Carrie Fisher, etc… oh, did I forget to mention that Trump is president now? These aren’t events that I can just overcome. Personally, nothing negative happened with me except perhaps being constantly rejected by guys – but that’s whatevs.

What and who are you most thankful for?

My best friend. If it weren’t for our recent monthly meet ups, I would have probably had a meltdown. I’m not very good at opening up about how I’m feeling IRL (super easy for me to write it all down, though!), so I’m so thankful I have someone who is always there and willing to listen to my woeful tales.

2016 wasn’t the greatest year for the world lets admit it. More downs than ups, but now we’re moving into 2017 let us try and be positive. I know for me, I will be concentrating on myself and working on myself to be a better person – personally and professionally.

My goal to become an author needs to happen sooner rather than later and I want to be happy in my professional career, as well. I’m not going to say the cliché that 2017 is my year, but I can certainly feel that it will be better than 2016.

Hey! Feel free to answer these questions yourself for your own reflection ☺

Happy New Year, babies ❤️