A First Date

Her rule for this year was to be more brave.

She texted her best friend saying that she had gotten an invite for drinks and that she was hesitant, but not hesitant enough to say no. She wished that her best friend was in London with her but alas she was off in the far away land of Coventry. Her best friend said if she said yes she should bring somebody along because you have to be careful about these things.

She agreed.

What if she said yes, went by herself and he turned out to be a 50 year old pervert? God forbid. Her next problem was to find someone who wouldn’t judge. The stigma of online dating had been partly removed over the years but she didn’t think some of her friends would understand why she was on a site like that. She knew the perfect person and so, after telling her the lowdown and even showing her the blog post she wrote about it, her friend agreed. In fact, her friend even commended her and said that she was actually going to try speed dating in the summer if she was still single then.

The plan was for her friend to go into the bar first and then they would go in after. She was worried because she didn’t want her friend to look like a loner, but her friend was okay with it and said she’d keep herself busy. She said she’d act like she was being stood up. Brave girl.

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They were meant to meet at 7 but he asked to move it to 7.30 but since she had already left her house, she decided to continue and meet up with her friend so they could have a little catch up and try to calm her nerves. She was going to wear her heeled boots but she had worn them that morning for an interview and had cut her ankle because she forgot to wear socks with them. It hurt to walk. Honestly, if he couldn’t deal with how short she was then that was his loss.

She ordered a Woo Woo when they got to the bar, and noticed her bartender friend was also working that night. Her friend had to leave a little early, so she thought it’d be a good idea to let her bartender friend know what was going on. She really, really, really hoped she wasn’t going to get catfished.

They chose a seat at the back of the bar. The music was quite loud but at least it was good and she could still hear what her friend was saying. Her friend was telling her about Dating in the Dark. She couldn’t see herself doing that ever. Ever.

She sipped her drink real slow because she knew what a lightweight she was. If she drank any faster she’d surely end up with her face making out with the floor. It had happened before. She decided to go up quickly to let him know where she was, as there was no reception downstairs and as she went back up the stairs she spotted him outside. He was wearing a green coat, was quite tall (well, anyone could be quite tall compared to her) and she thanked the gods that he looked like he did in his profile picture. She could literally kiss them.

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There was the mandatory greeting and ‘Nice to meet you!’ and a hug, and then they made their way downstairs into the bar which was becoming more packed. She was nervous as she led him to her table but she bottled it as best as she could. He laughed as she already told him that she already had a drink and so he went off to get his own. As he turned the corner, she let out a big sigh of relief and a thumbs up to her friend who was sitting two tables down. Her friend grinned.

When he came back, they went straight into talking and it wasn’t awkward at all. They actually had quite a lot to talk about and she found out that he watched Community but didn’t know that Donald Glover was Childish Gambino, as well. When she said she basically saw Troy from Community last week, his eyes bugged out. He high fived her when she said she owned the Firefly boxset and recommended her some films she should ‘definitely, totally, like seriously’ watch.

Second round of drinks were on him. They had gone to an Adventure Bar, and so she dared him to do the Cricket Soup Challenge. They would make a cocktail and place a cricket on top which you had to eat. She didn’t think he would actually do it but he did, and she shuddered but was also secretly impressed. He even got her that Long Island Iced Tea because in her profile under ‘On a typical Friday night I am…’ she had written, ‘Netflix binge watching. Look, don’t judge me – I’m a broke graduate, I haven’t got money to be going out. If I did you’d frequently find me at Adventure Bar drinking Long Island Ice Teas.’

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She could go into details but she wanted to keep it all to herself but she would definitely say that it went really well for a first date with someone she had met online. Her bartender friend even came over to say hi and give free strawberry bonbon shots and lit the candle on their table.

They stayed until closing time but honestly, they didn’t even notice the time.

Happy Valentine’s Day.

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  1. February 14, 2014 / 8:43 pm

    Awwwww! From what you have said, it sounds like the date went pretty amazing! So that’s plenty of points scored in OkCupid’s (and online dating in general’s) favor then? It’s really good that you’re first person-to-person meet-up was a positive experience. Cause imagine if he WAS the fifty-year-old creeper. I’d run fast and far from online dating forever! haha

    On a funny, odd note, at first I read “she could literally kiss them” as “she literally kissed him”. I was like…wow…the relief of seeing someone actually look like their online profile was that much?! Girlll, hold yo horses. Also huge props to that amazing friend of yours as well for holding your hand a little bit for the first bit. ALSO LONG ISLAND ICE TEA IS TOO GOOOOODDD!

    • February 14, 2014 / 9:13 pm

      So far, so good! I’m still wary but yeah, plenty of points 😀

      Oh, yes. It was such a relief that I literally grabbed him by his coat and started making out with him. HAHA. I’m so thankful for my friend. She even said that if I have any more first dates she’s willing to tag along 😀 YES TO THAT SISTA.

  2. February 15, 2014 / 3:54 am

    It’s great that you had a friend who understood what you’re doing and came along with you to the bar. It’s really hard to trust strangers these days from the internet :I. Power to your buddy for being able to handle flying in solo XD.

    Good thing the dude was a legitimate dude! It’s so cool that he has some of the same interests! He is so down with that cricket. I would never do that :I. It’s great to hear that the first date went well! :).

    Happy Valentine’s Day!

    • February 15, 2014 / 7:05 pm

      I nearly screamed when he ate the cricket. Like woah! Hahaha.
      Hope you had a good Valentine’s Day 😀

  3. Sakura
    February 15, 2014 / 6:14 am

    At first I thought you are talking about your friend. Then you went on with so much details and I realised that you are talking about yourself. I’m glad that your first date went well and he looked exactly like what you expected him to be. 😀

    • February 15, 2014 / 7:05 pm

      Haha, yeah I thought I’d write about ti differently 🙂 Thank you!

  4. February 15, 2014 / 11:44 am

    Aww, I’m glad it went well! 😀 Always a good thing when first dates are a positive experience, whether having met the person in real-life or online. ^_^ It’s good that your friend was understanding and supportive, some people can be so anal and taboo about it – lots of my own friends have met people they’ve ended up MARRYING online! An ex-boyfriend of mine I too also met online and even though we sadly aren’t together anymore, it was a good experience and I don’t regret it. 🙂 Eeee, girl, you’ve inspired me. X’D I love how this was written like something from a novel. (*cough*NEEDMOAR*cough*)

    • February 15, 2014 / 7:07 pm

      Oh, wow! Marriage! That’s a crazy long time away for me to think about it but it’s nice to know that it’s possible. Yay for modern technology! 😀

  5. March 2, 2014 / 12:20 am

    For a date with someone you met online, it really sounds like it went great! I joined eHarmony years ago to make friends/just test it out, and it didn’t go well. Really, it was a waste of money, and they got way too personal (wanted to contact references, confirm with my church, etc.). He looks adorable! The cricket thing made me squirm. 😡 Agh.

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